Single, Saved and Not Having Sex (True Love Waits)

Single, SAVED

Today, I’ll be talking about something that has been on my heart for a while now. It has been and still is a very sensitive and controversial topic; in the church, on social media and in society at large – premarital sex. It is so controversial that even Christians sometimes don’t like to talk about it. We would rather “mind our business” because we don’t want to offend anyone or for fear of being tagged as “judgemental”. We would rather accommodate every opinion and belief, refusing to hold ourselves and those around us to any standards, all in the name of love and acceptance. But is that really love? I have asked myself this question a couple of times. (Post for another day). And I have been guilty of this. Holding out what my heart feels strongly to speak about because I was skeptical about opinions. But 2 Timothy 1:7 lets me know that God has not given me a spirit of fear (a timid spirit) but of power, love and a sound mind. I will try my very best to talk about this in the way that I feel led to and be practical/real as possible. 

So, premarital sex. Is it wrong? If yes, why is it wrong? What exactly is considered premarital sex and what is (sexual) purity? Are there boundaries? Is it even possible or normal to wait till marriage before having sex? And no, this post isn’t just for the females out there. It applies to guys too. Let’s get down to it. 

Society tells us that, in this day and age, it is completely ridiculous and out of place to expect people to wait until marriage before having sex for the first time. The message is that if someone does this, that person is “ancient”, a wuss or better still a loser. In Naija lingo, na “dead guy/babe”. But losing out on what exactly? 5 minutes of passion? Dead to what? His/her flesh? The (not so) shocking thing is that, this has been making rounds not just in the world but around Christian circles as well. Because we believe God loves us and Jesus did all the work on the cross of Calvary so no matter what we do, God forgives us. We believe our part is to enjoy salvation, not bother with “old -school traditions”, discipline, self-control and “work” because we live in a dispensation of GRACE. While this is PARTLY true, I think it calls to question our authenticity as true believers if we choose to abuse the beautiful gift of Grace that God has given us through Jesus Christ.

   

 

Isn’t our life before Christ and our life after Christ supposed to be different? And this is not about appearing pious on Sundays. I’m talking about being the church every single day of the week. Monday through Saturday. God extends His Grace to us not so that we can go on doing as we please but so that as He grows in us and we become more like Him, we can also be a light unto the world. He is not a sugar daddy that we expect to just dish out blessings whenever we please. He has expectations of us. He is Holy and His Grace calls us to a life of obedience. 

James 1:22-25 tells us “But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man observing his natural face in a mirror; for he observes himself, goes away, and immediately forgets what kind of man he was. But he who looks into the perfect law of liberty and continues in it, and is not a forgetful hearer but a doer of the work, this one will be blessed in what he does.”

As true Christians, the world needs us. (Romans 8:19). It might hate the way we live. But it needs us. We are the salt of the earth, the light of the world. And our lifestyle preaches louder than the things we say.

Waiting to have sex till you get married is NOT abnormal

Let me start by saying this. Even if you’ve had sex before but you’re now walking in purity and in the fullness and knowledge of God (celibacy), it’s just as if it never happened. 

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”

‭‭II Corinthians‬ ‭5:17‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

“As far as the east is from the west, So far has He removed our transgressions from us.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭103:12‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

It doesn’t matter what any human’s opinion on that is, it doesn’t matter how many people you have been with. God sees you as a new creation as soon as you accept Jesus Christ as your Lord, Saviour and Groom.

Also, I have heard many people mistake the fact that being a virgin means one is sexually “pure”. Now while I am all for keeping one’s virginity till marriage (men and women alike), I will like to point out that virginity and purity are two entirely different things. I will elaborate on this in another post some day soon but just to shed more light on this. While virginity is a physical thing and may be about the state of one’s hymen being intact (in the case of some women), purity is more about the mind and the heart – which is what God truly sees. So there’s the case of a virgin who struggles with masturbation/pornography or engages in anal sex/petting/making out just so she can take pride in her hymen staying intact/so he can brag about being a virgin guy but truly that doesn’t depict anything close to purity.

Now that we have settled that, I would go further to add that waiting to have sex is not easy. Especially if you have experienced it before. There’s no super power that celibate people possess and I promise you that the blood flowing through their veins is also red and not blue. They have the same feelings, emotions, desires and sexual drive as everyone. The difference is in the choices they make.

Most people don’t understand that some of our actions either fire up or cool down our sexual drives. We listen to filth, read filth, watch filth and surround ourselves with filth. It’s not rocket science then that we get to “struggle”. The battle against our flesh can only be won with the help of the Holy Spirit and if we don’t fill ourselves with the things that glorify Him and edify us, it is only imperative that we will keep struggling and eventually falling. 

Keeping boundaries is an alien concept to this generation but it is so essential. 

We can’t be petting, deep kissing and making out and expecting to stay pure in heart  – and body. We can’t be accepting random dates, dating unbelievers in a bid to “change them and trying to convert souls for Jesus”. We can’t be “hanging out” in his/her house past midnight or sleeping over and expecting nothing to happen. You WILL fall. I have had people tell me that they can have sleepovers at their boyfriends/girlfriends houses, be on the same bed, and absolutely nothing would happen. That, my friends, is a lie from hell. Because as long blood flows through those veins and there’s an attraction between both parties, even if sexual intercourse does not take place, something else will happen. And that is not protecting or guarding your christian testimony.  I know because I have tried it (sleeping over), out of sheer stupidity and thinking I was too spiritually strong to let my guard down. But for the Grace of God, it would have been a different story (sorry, I told you I’d be as real as possible). The bible exhorts us to flee from all appearance of evil. Not just evil in itself but the very appearance of it. 

We don’t live pure in order to earn God’s mercy and grace. We can never earn it and we can never be so “strong and righteous” that we feel we can do this on our own. That in itself is idolatry because it’s taking God of of the picture. We live pure as a result of God’s love and because we want to honor Him with our lives. 

So, waiting is not abnormal. It’s the standard. God’s standard. Because our bodies are His temple and our first fruit to Him. What is abnormal is having sex outside marriage and encouraging behavior that makes it difficult to stay pure. There’s a lot of drama in marriages today that are as a result of the choices made while couples were still single.

Nothing beats doing it God’s way. Absolutely nothing. It may not guarantee that one’s sex life will be “great” once married (that’s the reason a lot of us give for wanting to test the waters before getting to the marital bed) but at least it can guarantee not having sleepless nights because of pregnancy scares or STDs, dealing with unnecessary soul ties and trust issues. By the way , isn’t marriage supposed to require work? Knowing the person, discovering them and who they are and not just about sex?

If you are waiting, keep up the faith. Lean on God when it gets hard because it will. Pour out your heart to God. He listens and He cares. He gave you that sexual drive and will help you wait..and wait well. Surround yourself with good friends and things that edify you. Cut off everything and everyone that tries to make you live a hormone-driven life. We are not animals. Sex was made to be enjoyed within the confines of marriage and you will have loads of it once you are married so why not just wait? 

So what is the point of all of this?

Many of us, ladies especially, are so tied up with getting a ring and wanting to be called someone’s “Mrs” that we miss the whole essence of preparing ourselves and our bodies in the godly way. I have seen some images going all around on social media about how some celebrities waited and then got wifed up – therefore that seems to be the basis of waiting to have sex before getting married. Now while that is not a bad thing, I have news for you. The whole point of keeping yourself from having sex is not marriage. It is part of the point but it’s not he whole point. The whole point is God and doing His will.

I’m saying this because sometimes we have this expectation in our mind that since we are living for God and keeping ourselves till marriage, why is God taking so long to make bring us our spouse? I know because I was this way for a while (I wasn’t in any relationship for 4 years). But I have come to discover that as a single person, the only person God ever prepared me for was Himself. Not a man. Before being anyone’s girlfriend/fiancée/wife, I am first a Christian and a daughter of the Most High and His plans for our lives are so much higher than marriage. His plans and purpose for me are eternal and everlasting.

KNOW THIS.

Man or woman, God cares about you.

He loves you.

He is the only one who completes you.

You are valuable to Him.

He’s still working in all of us to make us like Himself.

The goal is higher – it’s heaven bound, not earthly.

Here’s to wishing you a happy new month, of fresh starts and aced goals. *cheers*


Till my next post,

Sending you all the love in my heart. xxox

Comparison – Stealing Contentment from A.D to B.C

“Now godliness with contentment is great gain.”
– 1 Timothy 6:6 (NKJV)

Comparison is the thief of joy
-Theodore Roosevelt

Comparison. I’m guilty of it. You’re guilty of it. We all are. Or have been. At least, at some point in our lives. From the moment that girl got chosen to represent the class as lead actor at the school drama when we obviously knew we could do better, to when we didn’t think it was fair that mummy gave brother a bigger portion of meat, we have constantly been stuck with looking right and left – comparing our share of things with others. It remains one of the biggest hindrances we face in life and the thing with it is that it never looks like a trap till we get so wound up in it that it begins to eat at our very lives.

It is human nature (as a result of sin) to constantly want to measure up to others. All the way from Genesis, we see Cain comparing himself to Abel and then killing him out of discontentment (Genesis 4)… and in this age of social media, it has gotten worse. Some sociologists point to technology and social media as significant factors in our constant unhappiness. We are the first people in the history of the world who can peek inside the lives of others in real time. We carry tiny media powerhouses in our pockets that let us voyeuristically follow other people around, through all of their check-ins and pictures and video clips.

The interesting thing is that sometimes we don’t even realize it when we compare ourselves with others. The effects, however remain the same regardless. There are two sides to it. We either come up short when it seems what we are seeing in the life of others is better, more interesting or more fulfilling than our own lives – so she’s skinnier, he’s funnier, she’s smarter, her house is fancier, her relationship is perfect (your relationship with your significant other was perfectly fine before you started seeing “pictures” of hers) – this is where envy, anger, jealously, low self-esteem, feelings of inadequacy come in); or we come out on top (our house is bigger, our clothes are better, we look prettier) – here creeps in pride and arrogance. Either way, no one wins.

Granted, we may feel left behind watching friends/people have amazing relationships, get married, have kids, or move on to new jobs—the very things we may be praying for. I know I felt that way for a while. But hey, NEWS FLASH: everyone has battles they are fighting. Everyone. The fact that we don’t get to see it does not make it inexistent. So that Instagram/Snapchat/Facebook feed we’re watching may not necessarily reflect the whole reality. As humans, we generally tend to put our best foot forward, showing people only the things we want them to see. Photoshopped and cropped, filtered and edited, what we see online are mostly moments captured in time and do not always depict reality.

Comparison brings us to a place of discontentment and can trick us into thinking that God’s blessings are in limited supply, lying to us that there’s no “space at the the top” and that when one person wins, we lose. It leads us to make unwise financial decisions just to feel validated (by mere humans!). It stains our friendships with gossip and unnecessary striving, and sometimes it can can trick us into delighting in the misfortune of others. Have you ever been just a little bit happy to hear about a friend’s breakup? That’s discontentment stemming from comparison right there.

There is simply no win in comparison. It brings envy, jealousy, pride, and sometimes hate.
The truth is, there will always be someone who is better or has it better than us. And there will always someone who would come up short. Whether you compare spouses, physical appearances, hair or wardrobe, there will always be someone else to envy and someone envying you.

So how then do we deal with comparison? Here are some tips.

  1. The antidote to overcoming comparison is gratitude – thanking God for what He has given us. Thankfulness adjusts our perspective instantly and helps shift our focus to all the blessings we do have. Whenever you find yourself wishing you had what someone else has, pray about that desire, starting your prayer with a list of at least three things you’re thankful for.
  2. Look to Jesus and find all your fulfilment in Him. In Philippians 4:11-13, Paul tells us “Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content: I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”.
  3. We all have a surplus of something. Brainstorm one area in which God has given you a surplus and commit to one thing you can do today to better use it for him. Look for ways to leverage what God has given you. God has given us all talents and treasures in specific amounts for a reason. How can you put them to good use? Even if your wardrobe isn’t as big and fancy as your friend’s, how can you best use yours? Even if you’re not as rich as you’d like, can you still offer a helping hand to the needy? Whether a lot or a little, what you have is less important than what you do with what you have.
  4. Has anyone in your life received good news lately? Celebrate that person out loud and purposefully today. Even if your words don’t match your thoughts. Applaud that person. There’s something powerful and liberating about celebrating the success of other people. It’s like popping a balloon filled with all the insecurity and envy of comparison.

God has set a unique plan for our lives. Each and everyone of us.. And He will abundantly prepare us for it. His hands never run dry and even though it may seem hard, we can trust in His timing. If we’re busy looking over our shoulders and trying to see what everyone else’s garden looks like, we may miss the perfect green pasture he’s prepared just for us.

Be content with knowing that each and everyone of us has our different races to run in life. No two humans in all of the universe have the same fingerprint. Isn’t that amazing? You are different, you are unique, you are beautiful, YOU ARE ENOUGH. And the beautiful thing about God is that, He thinks we are all amazing and loves us all equally – so much so that He gave up His ONLY Son, Jesus Christ to die for us. That is SPLUFIK (Lol. I finally get to use this word. Yay me!) – if I do say so myself. So go ahead and flourish!
Till my next post,

Keep being awesome. xo

(Photo credit: Google Images)

The Unveiling.

  
Hola! (In my head, I’m half Spanish. Let’s just stick with that for the sake of World Peace). It’s been a while since I sat down to intentionally write a blog post. Yikes! *covers face*. You need to do better, Antoinette. Okay? Now, everyone scoot over let’s get a group hug😀

Let me start by saying Happy New Year!!! Yeah, I know we are in April and 4 months into the year but it’s still relatively new… I think *huge grin*. It’s the beginning of the second quarterrrrrr. I honestly hope 2016 has been good to you but if it hasn’t, don’t worry – it gets better.

If you follow me on social media, you already know that I recently turned 25. Woot woot! I am super thankful that God has kept me up until this point and if anything, that tells me that he’s not done with me yet🙂. However, call it quarter life crisis or what-not but lately I have been doing a lot of thinking and reevaluating my life. Something I wish I did more often as opposed to getting caught up with life and its happenings. I have been asking myself a couple of questions and even though I do not necessarily like some answers, I cannot possibly lie to myself. That would be foolish, wouldn’t it?

I am 25 years old now. That is, 9159 days as of today. Which is pretty much 791,337,600 seconds (OH MY GOD!) on earth. So….. What next? 

If I died today, can I leave knowing without a doubt that my very existence made an impact on the world?

Am I just existing or actually living?

And by living, I’m not talking about traveling around the world, engaging in frivolous activities and feeding my vain obsessions.

Am I intentionally walking intentionally in God’s purpose for my life?

Can I clearly and without a doubt even state what God’s purpose for my life is or am I at least trying to follow the pointers towards that purpose?

What are the things acting as pointers towards that purpose? My hobbies, interests, likes?

Am I taking time to carefully develop them and the talents God has blessed me with?

Am I being a good steward with all He has given me? Am I watching over what he has put in my care?

Am I helping people? Am I showing love to each and everyone? Am I seeing God in everyone? Am I being a Light to the world and drawing people to Christ through my life and conducts?

Am I making good use of my time, energy and focus? My health…Mind… Intellectual faculty?

Am I being a problem solver, a solution provider wherever I find myself in  or am I being the problem itself?

Can I honestly say I add value to whoever or whatever I come across or am I okay with just accepting the status quo?

Do I keep to my word?

Can I be trusted – by both God and man?

I know I won’t get to where I should be at once but am I even taking steps at all?

Am I running my own race, striving to get better and becoming more like Christ in my character or am I focusing on the race of others?

Am I so focused on “self”, getting along, being popular, being the next big thing, my job, business… Or am I focused on what God has been called me to do?

Am I letting God mould me, refine me through the fire and patiently trusting Him through the process… Knowing that He has to finish His good work in me and then use me?
People are dying. Every single day. Living unfulfilled lives… People are going to hell. Not accepting Jesus as their personal Lord and Savior… Not knowing Him and what His boundless, raw, unadulterated, perfect love feels like and I’m here worrying about silly little things instead of stepping out in faith and acting. 

After all is said and done, I am His disciple… I am THE church and whether I am “comfortable” or not, the Great Commission still stands! He said, “if I be lifted up, I’ll draw ALL men unto me” (John 12:32). He WILL do the drawing. Not me. All I have to do is lift Him up. Am I ready… fully ready? Maybe not. Maybe I never will be if I keep waiting. But as Paul would say, it is not I who lives but Christ who lives in me. This is not about me. It never was. It never will be. Someone’s life depends on my stepping out in faith and God is counting on me. Matter of fact, all of creation is EAGERLY waiting for the manifestations of the sons of God – of which I am one. If you ask me, I think that’s all that matters. So, here I am. Throwing it ALL in. Coming as I am. Unabashed. Unashamed. Unapologetic. Because who the Son sets free is free indeed. And I am free🙂

Love Letters From A Princess To Her King

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I am here again
This time just basking in the quiet, sweet stillness
It’s just me and You
And though words aren’t enough to articulate
I just want to tell you how I feel about you

I like this place I’m in
Away from the noise that life sometimes brings
In this place, I am whole
I am fully aware of who You are
And so I am aware of who I am
Because in You I live
And move
And have my be-ing
In You my heart beats
For You
And because of You
For there would be no heart in the first place without You

In You, I find my meaning
No uncertainty, no doubts
Because You Are
Shalom – my Perfect Peace
No “extra-ness”
No “trying to be”
Because in You, I am

I love the way You love me
It’s nothing like I have ever felt before
And I know it’s nothing like I’ll ever feel outside of You
I know because this one burns
Like hot lava
Pouring and cascading down my soul
Purifying me as it goes
Shriveling and burning to ashes everything that misrepresents you
Envy. Anger. Jealousy. Strife. Malice. Hate. Unforgiveness. Slander. Lust.
Leaving a soothing warmth in its wake…

I’m really glad that You love me
And I love how You love me
But I’m not content with You just loving me
Because You love the world anyway
John 3:16 tells me this
And the work of Your Hands are more than enough evidence to this truth
So I’m happy that You love me
But I am not satisfied with You just loving me
No, I want You to “more than” love me
I want You to be PLEASED with me
I want You to beam with joy when You look at me
I want to please You…

And You tell me how to in Hebrews 11:6
(Always dashing me expo 😁😜)
That without faith, it’s impossible to please You
But You also let me know
In James 2:14-26
That faith without works is dead
So I will work for You
I will do Your bidding
Hearing You with clarity when You speak
And obeying You without inhibitions or restraint of will
I will RUN
Wherever You send me
I will go
Even if it hurts
Even if it breaks me
I will trust
Because You are my Strength. My Shield. My Buckler! (Odeeshi. No shaking 😤)

Some may call me a lunatic
Others may say I’m dogmatic… A fanatic
But I don’t care
Because after all is said and done,
I’m just a girl relentlessly… unashamedly… unapologetically… chasing after Your Heart ❤️

Boundaries.

do not cross

I was going to write about relationships but an event in my recent past has inspired me to write on the topic above instead so I would postpone the former to later. This is going to be one of those blatantly honest posts so you can close the tab now if you ain’t ready. Lol. Now, let’s get down to the matter on ground.

So, I used to be one of those people that just couldn’t say that dreaded N-word to certain things. NO. Like I would literally hear my heart drumming deafeningly in my ears during that split second when someone would ask me for a favour and I would be required to respond. It was a huge problem for me especially when it involved people that I cared about because I was scared – scared of hurting their feelings or being perceived as selfish. I thrived on “people approval”. It was like a drug and I couldn’t get enough of it. I would even go the extra mile just to please people so they’d do the same if our places were switched. At some point, I tricked myself into thinking I could say no but it was only a matter of cajoling me for a while and I would cave in. In Uni, I remember coming across a friend’s journal where she talked about wanting to get something done by someone and she referred to me being the best option because I was a “pushover”. I’m over it but it stung then. Partly because I knew this was true and partly because I knew I would still end up doing what she wanted. I was referred to as many things from “naive” “too nice” to “too stupid”. As predicted, it got to a point where I started to feel victimized and resentment steadily crept in. It didn’t take long for a couple of betrayals and feelings of being unappreciated to shift my mind and I created this huge impenetrable wall around me. I was insensitive. I constantly prided myself on not giving two hoots about peoples’ feelings and how I did not need friends anyway. My nickname became “Lioness”. I could deal with Lioness. At least, it meant I was no longer a pushover. Right?

Wrong. Christ finding me made me realize that being a pushover and being arrogant are just two sides to the same coin – I was letting myself get controlled regardless of what side of the coin I was. “Tomayto-tomahto”. Same difference. He made me understand that I could say NO to people and confidently stand my ground if I didn’t want to do something and the world would still be okay! Wawu. Wonderment! The real issue I was facing was creating healthy boundaries AND sticking to them.

Life is a constant battle of balance. And if there is something I have struggled with, it’s balance. How to eat just the right amount and type of food so I don’t get fat, how to spend just the right amount of time on social media so I don’t become redundant, how to balance work, business and life altogether, how to balance my time so I am a warrior in my place of prayer and a victor in Christ when taking on the world… the list is endless. But another place to strike a balance is to realize where to draw the line in relationships with people.

Relationships are the fuel for life and as much as some of us may not like it, humans were all created to be relational beings. Whether it’s for business, family or romantic purposes, we must relate with other people. Someone perfectly articulated this in an article I read. He wrote:

The means and end of a good and happy life is to connect and relate in deep, meaningful and positive relationships with God and with people

We all want friendship, intimacy, warmth and safety when we interact with people but we live in a crazy fallen world (this is not rocket science) and we cannot just let any and everyone into our lives. The Greatest Book in all of eternity tells us to guard our hearts. This is where setting boundaries comes in. Setting healthy balanced boundaries because you don’t want to throw the baby out with the bath water. Your values, beliefs and what you stand for. The essence of doing this cannot be overemphasized. Oh if only I could begin to tell you the kinds of mess I have been in just because I have ignored this. Lol! God is indeed faithful.

One common misconception we have is that boundaries are created for everyone else but ourselves when in actuality, boundaries should be created first for ourselves before anyone else. Let me give a very relate-able example. It is one thing for me to communicate to a guy (that I may be attracted to) that I don’t receive calls after a certain time or that I don’t stay out at night after a certain time but it is another thing for me to actually respect this boundary and not create loopholes. First of all, I am not creating this boundary because I want to play hard to get or seem like an overly spiritual sister. But I know the possible implications of allowing certain things and my Bible has warned me to FLEE from all appearance of evil (trust me, you are not odeeshi). This applies to different facets of life. Now I know you are holier than thou so you have no idea what I am talking about but I know that all by myself, I can do bad. By myself, I am a frail human being ruled by my flesh so I would rather just be like David by hiding God’s Word in my heart so I don’t sin against Him. If I don’t create boundaries and respect them, how do I expect the person I am communicating these boundaries to to respect them?

Some people would actually respect you and your boundaries once you communicate with them but there are those that would do everything to just break through even get angry with you and try to make you feel like you have a problem when in actuality, they are the ones with the problem! These ones are the toxic ones that you really don’t want to get involved with.

“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.”

–  Galatians 5:1

Christ has set us free from slavery including people bondage. We need to stop letting ourselves get entangled in all of this toxicity. Some people have chosen to let the devil use them (believe it or not) and there is really nothing you can do about it. They know right from wrong but still choose to be manipulative and controlling. They have this very sick notion that being controlling is love but impinging on others’ freedom as opposed to respecting it is not love – it’s bondage. Loving someone means respecting their beliefs, values and what they stand for; respecting their boundaries by delaying your own gratification. Love without the fruits of love is really not love. The hard truth is that you may have to let these people go. This probability is something that even God faces from time to time when people decide to consistently participate in evil. He’s God and He’s Holy, therefore He would only do things the right way and not compromise. When people choose their ways in opposition to His way, He lets them go and occasionally, we just have to do the same. The best you can do for anyone is pray for them and sometimes, it’s best done from a distance.

“Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted.”

– Galatians 6:1

My prayer is that God will give unto each and every one of us the Grace and Wisdom to discern right from wrong, to follow Him with our minds, bodies and souls and to listen to Him when He speaks to us or lovingly chastises us. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Bisous.


Have experiences to share? Let’s hear your thoughts. xxx

A Walk Through August

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Gooooood morniiiiiing!!! And happy Septemberrrrrr! May this month signify divine completeness for you and yours in Jesus name, Amen. I can’t believe how I slept last night, I was SO TIRED. Okay, I promised to fill you guys in and I’ll try to do that as much as I can.

If you follow me on any of my social media platforms, I’m pretty sure you already know about the Daniel Fast I started in August which lasted for 21 days and boy, was it awesome? I mean, it was hard – REALLY hard – because I absolutely love food and I had to cut off a whole lot of stuff (no sugars no processed foods, no animals or animal products) but it was well worth it. I also got to meet a couple of awesome ladies and by the end of the fast, there were dozens of testimonies and I knew it could only have been God. Now for those who don’t know what the Daniel Fast is, I’ll just break it down here.

The Holy Bible records in the book of Daniel, Chapter 1 precisely, that

“1 In the third year of the reign of Jehoiakim king of Judah, Nebuchadnezzar king of Babylon came to Jerusalem and besieged it. And the Lord delivered Jehoiakim king of Judah into his hand, along with some of the articles from the temple of God. These he carried off to the temple of his god in Babylonia[a] and put in the treasure house of his god.

Then the king ordered Ashpenaz, chief of his court officials, to bring into the king’s service some of the Israelites from the royal family and the nobility— young men without any physical defect, handsome, showing aptitude for every kind of learning, well informed, quick to understand, and qualified to serve in the king’s palace. He was to teach them the language and literature of the Babylonians.[b] The king assigned them a daily amount of food and wine from the king’s table.They were to be trained for three years, and after that they were to enter the king’s service.

Among those who were chosen were some from Judah: Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael and Azariah. The chief official gave them new names: to Daniel, the name Belteshazzar; to Hananiah, Shadrach; to Mishael, Meshach; and to Azariah, Abednego.

But Daniel resolved not to defile himself with the royal food and wine, and he asked the chief official for permission not to defile himself this way. Now God had caused the official to show favor and compassion to Daniel, 10 but the official told Daniel, “I am afraid of my lord the king, who has assigned your[c] food and drink. Why should he see you looking worse than the other young men your age? The king would then have my head because of you.”

11 Daniel then said to the guard whom the chief official had appointed over Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael and Azariah, 12 “Please test your servants for ten days: Give us nothing but vegetables to eat and water to drink. 13 Then compare our appearance with that of the young men who eat the royal food, and treat your servants in accordance with what you see.” 14 So he agreed to this and tested them for ten days.

15 At the end of the ten days they looked healthier and better nourished than any of the young men who ate the royal food. 16 So the guard took away their choice food and the wine they were to drink and gave them vegetables instead.

17 To these four young men God gave knowledge and understanding of all kinds of literature and learning. And Daniel could understand visions and dreams of all kinds.”

In Chapter 1, Daniel fasted for 10 days but in Chapter 10 it was accounted that he fasted for 21 days. Why did I decide to go on this fast? I needed to reconnect with God on a deeper level. I had done this a couple of times in the past but never 21 days so this was quite challenging but the Holy Spirit was on my side by God’s Grace. I posted it on social media and I was mind blown by the number of interested persons. So, the fast involves eating only plant-based foods and water as beverage. No meat, fish, eggs, dairy product, sugar, sweetener honey… I couldn’t even cook with Knorr or Maggi *insert crying smiley here* Lol! But the interesting part is, the fast only limits what you eat. So, you can eat at any time of the day but only certain foods. I created a BBM group for the fast and it was an amazing experience as we all not only got to share our stories, fears and trials but we also got to pray together and for each other. Bonds were formed friendships were built, great testimonies were shared – it was indeed beautiful. The next Daniel Fast will be in December, staring on the 1st.

Sadly, I can’t be on the group at the moment because my phone was stolen over the weekend at my friend’s wedding while I was performing Chief Bride’s Maid duties (Happy Married Life Ehi & Bobodus! This hurts because I don’t even get to post pictures😦😦 :() but since the last challenge was a success, I have created a Facebook page called The Potter’s Clay dedicated to posting God’s Holy Spirit inspired content that would help mould us (clay) into who and what God (The Potter) has called us to be. A new challenge called The Psalms Challenge starts today and I would be talking about that in another post as my boss just dropped some work for me that I need to attend to.

Have a superhcharged blessed day child of God! Mwah

Catch Me… If You Can

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Helloooooooo *covers face* It’s been a pretty long while, I know. Trust me, I have drafted a million and one posts since my last one but I just haven’t had to time to complete and post any. Life happens mehn. But how have you been? Great? Awesome! Not so great? Awesome still! God is preparing you for something extraordinary.

August was quite an eventful month for me really and I promise to tell you guys a whole lot about it later but n all, I give thanks to God. So, I started the Daniel Fast in August (I will post more about that) . Tomorrow however, we would be starting a new challenge called the Psalms Challenge.

My eyes are closing. Fill you in tomorrow. Nanight. xx